Well, just figured I would drop a note filling you in a little of our days. We had a very peaceful day today and evening as well. Isaac had a wonderful day in school. I went and ate lunch with him at school today, we had a talk about respect and being good in class. Just a reminder talk basically, he has had a great week so far. After school, he got to play outside and roller blade with his friends. We went to a Mom's Night Out this evening. The church had babysitters for the kids and the Mom's got together and talked and socialized. It was nice not to have to look over my shoulder every 5 seconds checking on him - I knew he was in good hands. So I was able to be with adults and actually carry on a conversation - lol. I don't want anyone to think I regret losing my freedom - by having a child, I don't. I just have to use my time more wisely. I need to be able to be with adults - but I worry about him and his behavior.
I wonder what his father is doing while I am worrying... Probably nothing. He does not seem to care a whole lot anyway. He tells me this last week that he conveniently got fired from his job. So I guess that is a very smooth way to say - Isaac does not get any money for child support... So surprise, surprise when the check came it was $30 short. Was I mad? No - I already expected it. Not like he is very reliable anyway. Even though he has a second source of income - I guess he figures that the huge payment of $60 is going to pay his daycare, feed him and buy his clothes for the summer - even though his daycare doubles in the summer. But, I guarantee that his other 2 kids have what they need. But, regardless - Isaac will have what he needs - because I will, as always, make sure of it. It might seem like his dad stopped talking to us when we moved to Texas - but no, he lost us long before we moved. It is like he just did not want anything to do with either of us. So, I don't harp on Isaac to call him - I ask him and if he says no - then I don't make him call. But at least I make the effort to even ask him. What really ticked me off - is when Isaac had the surgery on his mouth I called him and told him that he should call and talk to Isaac, well I guess he forgot how to dial - because we still have not heard from him. Yeah, still not surprised. That is how his dad is. I can guarantee - even with him having a second income - he will not pay a dime of child support until he starts another job where they can garnish his wages again. He does not pay it voluntarily. Never has. It makes me wonder, how does he think Isaac is going to look at this when he gets older. I will never tell Isaac anything about his dad not paying anything to help raise him - but what he finds out on his own...well that is a different story. I will be there to answer his questions. But I am a firm believer on not pitting a child against a parent - no matter how worthless they seem to be. So, I guess this blog should be dedicated to any and all worthless dads who think that child support does not go to their child. Because I guarantee every penny of his went to him - and now thanks to his dad - he has none. Which means I will have to cover the extra money and the current bills and his daycare and whatever else comes up that needs to be paid. Because apparently - he is not going to.
Well, I know I do right by my son. I do whatever I can to make sure he has a happy and healthy childhood. I only wish he had a dad that gave a crap to be there too...a good dad does not even have to be there physically - but when he knows his dad and knows his dad does not even call. Or does not even write a letter - well, he is hurting himself in the eyes of his son. My son told me the other day, "Not all families have dads, it's ok". That is so true and it comes from a 7 year old... Go figure - he is smarter than we think.
So, I am going to bed now. I need to go to work in the morning - so I can make money to support my son - by myself.
Damn, I feel better - lol - Good Night...
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